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Friendship formed at camp not worth extra effort
Wed, Jul 12, 2006
 I met this guy at a summer day camp and we really hit it off. We have a lot in common. We like a lot of the same music and stuff. The whole time we were at camp, we hung out. But now that we have been away from camp, I've had a hard time catching up with him. He doesn't call or email me like he said he would. Do you think I'm being blown off?
Unfortunately, I must confirm that it sounds like you are being blown off. Let's examine the evidence: You said you guys exchanged contact information, yet staying in contact has been a chore. You are putting in all this work, but aren't getting results. Either he's being inconsiderate or he's trying to let you know, without saying it outright, that he isn't interested. Don't be too upset. This happens all the time. I had the same thing happen to me at JROTC camp the summer before my senior year of high school. We were together the whole time at camp. Yet, when I called him a few times after we got back, he usually wasn't at home or could only talk for a minute. It didn't take me too long to get the hint. I didn't have hard feelings, though. Probably because I understood that camps are just a period in time. Most people who go to camps lead separate lives, many times in places that are far away from each other. Sure, it's cool to connect with someone. Also, there are instances where people can develop true and lasting friendships. It's about having a great time. As you get older though, people will come in and out of your life. That's just a part of growing up and there isn't much you can do about it. What I take from situations like the one you're talking about are the memories and the thought of touching someone's life and having them touch mine. These experiences shape us in so many ways.Now, back to this guy. Sure, you might have wanted to have a clear statement from him, maybe saying that he just wanted to be friends with you, or that with you guys not being at camp anymore, its not the same. Either way, do what I did. Store those memories and save the energy being wasted on this situation for the special person you'll find one day.
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